Love is the cement. The match is the building material. You can have the best cement in the world and it won’t hold the building up if you built it out of leaves. This reviews what you are looking for and what you actually have, so you can make an informed decision.
You walk through what you actually want, one line at a time. Then you look at your current relationship and mark which of those needs are being met. No tricks, no hidden scoring, no manipulation of the numbers.
Every line counts the same. No weighting, no importance levels, no half marks. You either have the thing or you don’t.
The book’s argument is that a relationship has two parts, the match and the love, and only one of them can be worked on. You will turn down a lot of people who are not a 100 percent match for you. You can’t do that until you can say what your 100 percent is. This runs that process for you.